You Can Generate Attraction Regardless Of Your Looks

You Can Generate Attraction Regardless Of Your Looks
by Joseph Matthews

One of the main issues I contend with, when dealing with my students is their idea of not being attractive enough to attract women.

This insecurity comes in various shapes and sizes. For instance:

They could be too old.

Some think they're too fat.

Some think they're too short.

Some think they're too ugly.

Because of this, these men feel they are helpless when it comes to getting the kind of woman they desire.

This simply is not the truth.

We should take just a moment to drive out these few myths of attraction, since they do hold many men back from having a successful love life.

Myth #1 - You must be good looking to attract women.

All you have to do is look around at the various types of guys in this world who are dating gorgeous women to know that this isn't the case.

As a general rule of thumb, I like to say: It's important to look good, but it's not important to be good looking!

Is there a difference?

Although you cannot control whether you are good looking or not, however you do have control of how you present yourself. You do control how you groom and the clothes you wear, your hairstyle, how you smell and so on.

Presentations of these types of features play a role in looking good.

Any man can be attractive when he controls his appearance.

Myth #2 - Women Think Just As Men Do

Naturally, you and I think that everyone else sees the same things the same way in which we see others.

Take for instance that huge pimple on your forehead, you think everyone notices it, although it is beneath the skin and no one knows it is there besides you.

To you, it was clear as day. To everyone else, it was hardly noticeable.

Naturally, we practice this attitude while summing others up. Do you judge a woman by the way she looks? Of course you do, since you are able to determine by visually appraising her whether you think she is attractive.

You naturally assume that women size you up in the same manner.

This assumption is a mistake.

Women judge men differently to decide on an attraction than men do, although that is not to imply that a woman would not care if a man were attractive or not. Even so, women do not consider physical characteristics in the same way as men do.

Women find attraction by how a man makes them feel, more so than how he may physically appear. This explains their attraction to social status and confidence. Men who make them laugh, are good at what they do attract women. Physical looks has very little to do with whether a woman is attracted to a man.

Myth #3 - Women Notice Our Insecurities

Understand that we know ourselves better than anyone else ever will. We are able to pick out every single flaw there is about ourselves - our big ears, big nose, weak chin, receding hairline...

No matter what it is, we see it!

And because we see it, we assume everyone else does too. But the fact is, most people aren't very observant, and unless they specifically look for something to criticize you about, they're not going to care about your insecurities, whatever they may be.

Do you know that most women are not aware of your insecurities and only notice them when you call their attention to them? So forget about your insecurities rather than trying to diffuse or dismiss them by calling the attention of others as to why you may think you are ugly.

Keep in mind that insecurities and anxiety are completely unattractive.

In order for your positive qualities to outshine those that you find negative, you must always face every situation with a focus on your good qualities rather than any insecurity.

Myth #4 - Attractive Men Have It Easy

Get a grip guys, this is the biggest myth of them all. Women do not automatically flock to a good looking man.

Good looking guys have their own struggles with women. Sure, being physically attractive helps them initially, but in the long run, they have teh same issues other men have.

Attraction is the magnification of the emotional connection a woman feels while in your presence, you can build this connection in such a manner that the woman only feels this way when she is with you. Consequently, she will want to have you around her.

If a woman meets a man who matches her physical type, she is attracted to him, since her preference of features brings her enjoyment. Nevertheless, if the man is incompatible, boring or a jerk, her feelings will vanish.

However, if you take a guy that the woman maybe isn't initially physically attracted to, and then have him make her experience feelings of fun, excitement, and pleasure - she WILL become attracted to him eventually.

Making others feel good causes them to want to be with you, this is a fundamental of attraction.

You don't have to be a good guy to make women feel good! You just need to know how to interact with them.

The second part of connect with women is generating sexual attraction.

Sexual attraction is not only making a woman feel good by being around you, but arousing their passion as well.

This is where the aspect of seduction comes into play.

When you begin to lead a woman down the path of sexual attraction, even if you don't look like Brad Pitt, she's going to begin to see you in a whole new light - despite any of the shortcomings you may think you have.

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